Once I drove around with a $75 spa gift certificate in my purse for six months. I just couldn’t bring myself to use it! While I have a busy schedule, busyness wasn’t keeping me away from the spa.
So, why didn’t I use the certificate?
I didn’t think that I could/should/would use that gift certificate for myself until I took care of everything for everyone else.
My girls had a school trip that I needed to pay for…
The basement needed to be cleaned out…
The dogs needed heartworm medicine…
I needed to file a homeowner insurance claim for ice damage to our dining room…
And when I got all of that done, I needed to dust. EVERYTHING. Oh, my, so much dust EVERYWHERE.
So, I believed until all of that was accomplished, I didn’t deserve to use that gift certificate. Inwardly, my heart and mind screamed: Com’on Barb, you couldn’t possibly be selfish enough to take time and money out to do something good for you? What kind of selfish woman would I be to take an hour out of my life to do enjoy myself? What kind of awful woman would do that to her family?
I felt guilty just thinking about using that gift card. Oh, guilt is a powerful thing!
Most of us are pros when it comes to feeling guilty. What are we feeling guilty about? Here’s the short list:
We feel guilty for not being perfect.
We feel guilty about how we look.
We feel guilty about working too much.
We feel guilty about not having enough time to help others.
We feel guilty about feeling guilty.
As women, we understand guilt. In fact, some of us have been feeling guilty so long, it’s like that worn-out sweater in our dresser drawers. We regularly pull guilt out and put it on because it’s what we know how to do well. Guilt feels comfortable, even though it doesn’t do anything positive for our lives. Too often, we’d rather live with guilt than the often seldom-experienced feeling of satisfaction or fulfillment. Yes, some of us are very comfortable with feeling guilty. It’s our default emotion.
Ladies, when will we understand that caring for ourselves and caring for others are not mutually exclusive? If we can multi-task other areas of our lives, surely we can figure this out. We don’t have to abandon our obligations or neglect those whom we love in order to take care of ourselves. And we don’t have to feel guilty about it either.
Guilt wants us to deny doing good things for ourselves until we meet the needs of everyone else.
One of the reasons that we host the Fabulous Conference is because we KNOW that women struggle to care for themselves and we want to create an experience that gives women an opportunity to re-fill empty emotional, spiritual and relational tanks.
We know that you’re running on empty, but you don’t think you deserve hi-octane replenishment.
Yes, we know that the Fabulous Conference is an investment, but HOW LONG do you think that the memories of the Fabulous Conference will continue to nourish and bless your hearts and souls? For months! Yes, the both days of the conference is $110, but we believe that 30 days after the conference, you’re going to remember so much more than the cost of the conference.
What will you remember?
If we didn’t believe that the Fabulous Conference was worth it, we wouldn’t be mounting such a strong appeal to you! This conference is for you. I’m here to champion your need to push aside the guilt and to take 48 hours to refresh, rejuvenate and replenish.
God created you to be fabulous.
And we want to help you live it out!
(By the way, I finally used that gift certificate a few months later for a massage. It was amazing! Then, I came home and cleaned my house…)