When Barb and Lauren first introduced me to their Fabulous Conference idea, I was so super excited. I love fun, great food, and great conversation with ladies. I love to feel pretty and love really good lip gloss. But, what I love is that the Fabulous Conference is much more than that. Conversations are only great if they “get real”, are purposeful, and Christ-centered … Oh, and are filled with laughter. Otherwise, it is just superficial and meaningless. The Fabulous Conference captured the true meaning behind a great conversation. It’s what I desire most when I have conversations with other women. And by the looks of it, so do other woman … considering this is the fifth year for the Fabulous Conference.
So, I was honored when I was asked to speak at the very first Fabulous Conference.
When I look back on my first talk, I just bust out laughing. What in the world?
I walked on stage at a Christian Women’s conference with a trunk on my butt. Crazy … I’m just crazy.
I know these things. I just love doing different things and experimenting with new ideas that most would say “that’s weird, odd, or … just crazy”. I totally know that’s how God designed me. And so the idea of strutting my stuff on stage with a trunk attached to my butt came naturally. And … I still can’t stop laughing!
Let’s be real. There are a couple things that women have in common. One is that most women seem to have a fascination with their butts as they frequently think or ask “Does my butt look big in this ______” (Fill in the blank). And secondly, women tend to stuff away their hurt and pain – their junk, in their mind. Their mind is like a trunk, locked so tightly by wounds of their past. We Christian women tend to fake like we’ve forgiven others or even ourselves. But, we haven’t. Sometimes we live with pain so deep that it spills out to our children and our grandchildren and others. The junk in our trunk stifles our own growth and kills dreams.
So when I think of my most memorable Fabulous moment, it’s when the audience laughter faded during my talk and I opened my “proverbial” trunk and began to reveal my own junk. At that moment, I felt every woman was thinking about their own junk in their trunk. In that moment, I felt a yearning so deep that every woman wants to be free from the junk that keeps them shackled to their past or a negative belief that just keeps playing over and over in their mind. And that’s all because they haven’t cleaned out the junk in their trunk.
In that moment, I realize we all have the desire to open up our trunk and drop the “fake it till ya make it” strategy, but it’s scary. Sadly, most women collect junk as if it is their full time job, or a badge to their identity, or for some of us, our entire identity.
To this day, I continue to learn a lot from my “junk in my trunk” talk. I realize that junk continues to happen. Junk removal is not a onetime occurrence. It’s a daily process. It’s like taking out the trash. If you don’t take out the trash often, it stinks. Same thing holds true for our lives. The junk builds up and a lot of us are just putting perfume over it. But quite honestly, it just stinks.
We need to spend time, every single day, examining the junk that tends to build up in our lives. We have to open it up, get a shovel and get it out. This is where Christ comes in to make the difference. With Christ, we can keep our trunks free from junk.
This Fabulous moment has stuck with me. I love having great conversations with ladies who realize they are not immune from the junk collection process and who are actively willing to allow Christ to clean out the junk in their trunk!
Volunteer Celebration is Saturday, April 18 10:30am – Noon at the CedarCreek Perrysburg campus.